Quote of the Week

“My theory is that people in this day and age want to dismiss things. So they want to be able to dismiss you. They say, ‘You don’t belong, you don’t deserve this because here’s why, and let me find an intellectual argument for why you wearing pink or cuff sleeves or a bow makes you not worthy of your accomplishments. Everything you’ve done doesn’t matter because you wore the wrong thing or you speak in a way that’s feminine or you identify yourself as feminine.’ And I just think that’s bullshit.”

Zooey Deschanel, Marie Claire interview

Links Roundup – 2/18/15

Singin’ in the Rain is one of my favorite movies, at least in part due to Lina Lamont, who is one of the greatest underrated comic characters I’ve seen on film. Every once in a while, you realize something awful about a book, movie, or song that you’ve loved since you were an uncritical child: this is actually kind of shitty to women. Upon reflection, the treatment of Lina Lamont, which is played for laughs, is pretty damn shitty. Will this stop me from ever watching Singin’ in the Rain again? No. Will this make me a little sad when I do watch it again? Probably.

If you’ve ever been by my Pinterest, you may have noticed that I enjoy Mid-Century Modern decorating. I want this kitchen so much, it almost makes me overlook that whole detail of not wanting to own a house.

If you got all the way through the GeekVice podcast that I was on, you may have heard me suggest reading Pretty Deadly. If you’ve already read Pretty Deadly, good for you! If you haven’t, go read it now! The artwork is gorgeous and the story is compelling. Why am I bringing this up? Pretty Deadly is coming back in September! You’ll want to be all the way caught up before it returns, won’t you?

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Domestic Violence, 50 Shades of Grey and BDSM

With 50 Shades of Grey coming out this weekend, I feel like now is a good time to talk about domestic violence. If you’d like to read more about 50 Shades of Grey and how it relates to domestic violence, there’s a long list of links available here. It’s interesting to see how Christian Grey measures up against a red flags checklist (Spoiler: not well at all). Or hey, how about some legally defined rape?

Rather than go see the movie, please consider donating to a domestic violence awareness program such as Futures Without Violence or a local shelter. If you’re from Kansas City, we have the Rose Brooks Center, Hope House, and New House.

If you are in an abusive relationship, please reach out for help. Everyone deserves a safe relationship.

If you’re interested in exploring BDSM on film, consider watching Secretary instead. If you prefer reading your erotica, this is a good list. Consent between partners is negotiated in BDSM and a good dom[me] will help comfort and transition the sub after the scene. Perhaps you’d like to read what a few dominatrices have to say about it?