Domestic Violence, 50 Shades of Grey and BDSM

With 50 Shades of Grey coming out this weekend, I feel like now is a good time to talk about domestic violence. If you’d like to read more about 50 Shades of Grey and how it relates to domestic violence, there’s a long list of links available here. It’s interesting to see how Christian Grey measures up against a red flags checklist (Spoiler: not well at all). Or hey, how about some legally defined rape?

Rather than go see the movie, please consider donating to a domestic violence awareness program such as Futures Without Violence or a local shelter. If you’re from Kansas City, we have the Rose Brooks Center, Hope House, and New House.

If you are in an abusive relationship, please reach out for help. Everyone deserves a safe relationship.

If you’re interested in exploring BDSM on film, consider watching Secretary instead. If you prefer reading your erotica, this is a good list. Consent between partners is negotiated in BDSM and a good dom[me] will help comfort and transition the sub after the scene. Perhaps you’d like to read what a few dominatrices have to say about it?

Classic Alice

I’m pretty sure I’ve tried to make you watch Classic Alice before. If I haven’t, this is me trying to make you watch Classic Alice.

Check out the trailer for the first seven books:

They’re currently running an IndieGogo campaign* to raise money so they can film more books.

Classic Alice uses transmedia, which means that while you can follow the story by just watching the videos, it’s enhanced by also following the characters on Twitter, Tumblr, and Soundcloud. To enjoy the entire series from start to end with transmedia included, check out the Narrative.

I really enjoy this show because while it does touch on classic books, as a lot of webseries are currently doing, it has original characters. Even if you’ve read the book they’re focusing on, you still don’t know how the storyline is going to go because it’s how the characters relate to the story, not the story itself.

Here’s a few more reviews if for some reason my opinion isn’t enough for you (blasphemy!):

*I totally put my referral link in there. Means nothing unless you donate through that link. You should totally donate if you’ve got the cash and the inclination.

First and foremost, I’m sure you wanted to see my Christmas wishlist this year.

If your favorite charity is not me (and we need to have words about your priorities if it is me), you may wish to consider a donation to Water Defense, the Ferguson Defense Fund or help pay for self-defense classes for women.

Life has been busy lately and even when I have nothing to do, I’m busy doing something. I really need to take some time to relax. I’m pretty sure that kittens would help me destress.

I love this collection of Feminist Princess Bride tweets. This one is my favorite:

If you’re a Potterhead, you definitely want to take a look at this concept art for Harry Potter: The Creature Vault.

Sticking to Harry Potter for a moment, you might be interested in I Ship It, starring Mary Kate Wiles.

Have I tried convincing you to watch Classic Alice yet? If not, I’m going to step back and leave it to Snobby Robot. Seriously. Watch Classic Alice.

Finally, I leave you with Michael Bublé. Because why not?

Links Roundup

I haven’t had much to talk about on here lately. Life is still happening, but some things are just for me and the rest have just seemed too mundane to bother putting on the blog.

I mean, I’m sure you’re all thrilled that I found a Baskin Robbins less than 5 minutes away from my apartment, but I’m pretty sure it’s not blog-worthy. I’m willing to concede that it is Instagram-worthy.

I used to do link roundups ages ago and they were all nice and automated thanks to Delicious. Unfortunately, that’s no longer a practical option, so you’ll now get quality Christy rambles with the links.

One of my favorite advice sites is Captain Awkward. The advice given is practical and rarely involves suggestions like “Suck it up, Buttercup. Keep the social contract.” The comments are well moderated, so you don’t get that scuzzy feeling when you accidentally scroll down too far. I especially like it when the letter writer comments to share how the post helped them, like in this post which delves into recognizing emotional abuse. Having had the “I don’t want to take sides” friend and having been the “I don’t want to take sides” friend, I found this post to be very interesting.

One of my favorite responses to the cat-calling video has been #DudesGreetingDudes, which does an excellent job of highlighting the ridiculousness of “What’s so bad of saying hi to a woman?”

To my followers who possess an active uterus and a smartphone, I suggest downloading Clue. It’s available on Google Play and the App Store, so Android and Apple users can be happy. It’s not blindingly pink, doesn’t get starry-eyed over ovulation and has a simple interface that helps you enter information about pain, mood, flow, etc.

If you’re in the Kansas City area or interested in nerdiness, you might like to know that John Barrowman will be here for Planet Comicon next year. He’s been in a lot of things, but my main love for him is as Captain Jack Harkness on Doctor Who and Torchwood.

If you’re looking for a new place to send your money, I suggest Worldbuilders which partners with Heifer Interational to get livestock to people in need, which helps fight against poverty (I recommend clicking through for less hand-waving and more explanation). Worldbuilders is in the middle of a donation drive, which means that if you donate, you may win some pretty nifty prizes (fantasy novels signed by the author, cool games, etc.).

If you’re feeling like supporting smaller animals, you may want to check out Baby Warm, which gives incubators to wildlife rehabbbers.

Last, but certainly not least, I leave you with Shia LaBeouf.